We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give. Winston Churchill
The art of giving sparks our humanity and it is often said that charity begins at home.
Why do we give?
People give for different reasons. Some give in order to receive in return. Others give for the recognition and some give to show how much they love and care for the other person.
I believe true giving emanates from the goodness of our hearts and expects nothing in return. As they say, it is better to give than to receive.
The beauty in giving?
A gift is something that is enjoyed twice. First, my the giver who revels in the pleasure of giving something special and then also enjoyed by the person who receives the gift.
It takes a special skill to generate an emotional response from the receiver. Have you ever received a gift and felt like no thought was put into it? Or you imagine what the hell was the person thinking to have given me this?
And then the guilt trip you have to make when you throw it under a pile of stuff as you know for certain that you will not be using the item. Or having to re-gift the item to someone else who might be more appreciative of them.
Which brings me to my next point, The Presentation. The presentation goes a long way. You could make a relatively cheap item look quite expensive and also generate the desired emotional response. On the flip side, you can make an expensive gift look quite cheap and less appreciated as a result of the presentation.
I also believe that the element of Surprise takes your giving to a whole new level. To me, its like the sprinkles that go on a nicely baked cake. It makes my heart go Ahhh!!!! and gives me a warm feeling inside. We all want to feel special and loved and this is one way to throw in the special effect.
When to give?
Giving happens all year round. Birthdays, Christmas, Weddings, Bridal Showers, Baby naming, the list goes on. And of course the gifts you give just because.
Giving can come in various forms. We are accustomed to the physical gift giving which is the subject of discussion here. However, you can give your time, your talent, your smile, your word of advice and encouragement.
We do not need to wait for special occasions to give. I personally look for opportunities during my day to give. And I believe in karma that what goes around comes around. So start giving!
Whether you decide to spend a buck or a load of cash on a gift, you want it to count and that is where the ART of giving comes in.
What makes giving ART?
There is so much joy in giving. That warm fuzzy feeling you get when you take time out to think, plan and select that one gift for that special someone.
You begin to imagine the look on their face as they unwrap that gift. The anticipation on your part and the excitement in their voice and on their face as they unwrap the gift.
Trust me choosing a gift is no easy feat, you have to become a profiler like Dr. Spencer Reed. What would he/she like? do they like patterns or simply solid colors? Is he a striped suit kinda guy? Does she like her red bottoms? What type of fragrance do they like fruity or sweet? The questions are endless.
Then you morph into Ethan Hunt: Mission Impossible style… sneaking around trying to get their shoe/shirt/suit sizes… All these hoops to jump over for one simple act of giving!!!
Giving takes what I call the 3 P’s’ – Patience, Persistence and your Paycheck.
Patience to get all the required info/details…
Persistence in search of that one gift and your
Paycheck… because of this, not Secret Santa where you have a budget of £5.
There is an intimacy that comes with giving. You feel like you are a significant part of someone’s life and they feel the same way too.
There is a connection that is formed between the giver and the receiver and that is a magic moment.
It is strange as I have experienced this connection even when I give to the people whom I might deem less deserving and that is the beauty of giving.
Giving puts me on a high! And the more I give, the more I want to give. This is down to the neuroscience behind giving. The happiness trifecta hormones i.e. serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin are all released when we give. Serotonin boosts your mood, dopamine produces a euphoric feeling in the body and oxytocin helps you bond with other people.
I know you might say, but I don’t have the time to handle all the details. But remember, it will be worth your time and we are here to help you create the best gifting experience for the receiver. Always keep in mind that the emotions you arouse in the receiver are a priceless gift that is worth your time and effort.
Give with no intention of getting back. Look for opportunities to give as the law of Karma is constantly at work.
Take some time and put some effort into giving as the rewards are bi-directional.
Giving is an ART and we only become masters when we practice continually.
So to all my fellow givers out there, do it for the tribe! Give that Gift that will put a smile on that person’s face and that they’ll remember and cherish forever.
Create magic moments each day with your giving!
Please share your comments below on how you have created magic moments with your giving.
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in Giving Creates Love.”